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Joined: Sat January 05, 2013 7:30 am Posts: 8203 Location: nothing
B wrote:
Monkey_Driven wrote:
So sorry to hear about your mom, B. If there are particular close friends or family members who you want to "instruct", I'd reach out to them privately. Otherwise, your FB post is probably enough.
Don't assume inaction is not caring. Everyone grieves in different ways. What does your dad need to feel supported?
Yeah, since I've lived in another state for 20 years, I don't REALLY want to instruct anyone. I was hoping a post my spur some of my parents' friends or church congregation into action.
My dad would probably benefit from calls, which I assume will happen, but he'd be "happy" to find out people visited mom in her last days.
We'll probably see everyone at the funeral. I get a lot of "I just don't want to see her like that." (She's been mostly non-responsive for the past 6 months.) I get that, but dad's there every day feeding her, and it means so much when someone else visits.
I'm sorry B.
I see nothing wrong with saying that visits , if possible, are appreciated by your dad
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Joined: Thu January 24, 2013 4:32 am Posts: 20851 Location: Surrounded by Wokes. Please send help.
This situation with my dad got me thinking about my own estate planning. The first thing that came to mind was to call my best friend and tell him if both me and Mrs. Bam die he has to fly up from Cali and be the first one to go through our house and remove things from our respective bedside tables if you know what I’m saying.
Joined: Sat January 05, 2013 7:30 am Posts: 8203 Location: nothing
I did my own estate planning recently. From those forms I was able to do a living will (which is what you're referring to bammer) ,medical power of attorney, and durable power of attorney for my mom. It was easy to do once I had the templates. If anyone needs any help with this or wants to use these forms, pm me I'd be glad to help
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Joined: Wed December 19, 2012 9:53 pm Posts: 22498 Location: Chapel Hill, NC, USA
Once doctors put in a feeding tube or hook up a respirator, they will fight removing them even with a DNR. You have to have that stuff ready, and barring a sudden accident, you probably will.
That was part of my mom's plan when she went to the nursing home, so when she stopped eating, there was no discussion of a feeding tube. They just gave her morphine.
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